Narcissist and Sociopath Hate Responsibility

The sociopath can pretend and act like the rest of us with great success and believability because they lack a spiritual core. When there is no spiritual core to harm and confuse, the sociopath is a prime example of an empty existence unaffected by anything from the outside and especially from the inside.  

Sociopaths hate responsibility. So, the more they think and believe you are stressed out with responsibilities, the more victorious they feel. So let them believe you are not happy, that they have made life SO hard for you, that you are burdened by life. If they think they are making life hard, then they are content and will not step it up a notch or 10... Never let them see you happy, or tell them of your successes or future plans. If a sociopath thinks that you are succeeding in life - they will find a way to sabotage it...  

By giving them what they think they want, we appease them. By convincing them their choices burden us, we appease their need to control us. We did it inside the relationship; we can do it outside the relationship, too.

Predictable Sociopaths?

Sociopaths are actually predictable. They play the same game over and over. Victim after victim. They just add new players. But their strategy is the same every time.  

Sociopaths have a way of making you feel bad for them. They are always the victim. They play the victim role very well. Normal people do not go around telling everyone they meet how abused they were by their last partner... It's something they rather not talk about and are trying to heal from. A sociopath will tell anyone who will listen how abused they were. How they were abused mentally and physically. They do this because they are afraid the real victim may speak of the abuse they suffered at the hands of the sociopath. So by vilifying the real victim, they are hoping to discredit the victim first. And what better way than to play the victim. 

Shame the the real victim, so they are embarrassed to talk about what has happened to them. Then claim to be the one who was abused. Sociopaths add insult to injury in the most cruel and callous ways... 

Jealousy and Envy

 Sociopaths run their smear campaigns, in an attempt to spread lies about you, and some even go to the extremes of impersonating you, just get a reaction out of you. 

IF YOU REACT - you give the sociopath what they wanted. You give a reason to turn it around on you, and tell others that you are attacking them. 

That's why it's important to not react to the sociopath.  No matter how badly you want to defend you me character. If you really want the sociopath to leave you alone. 

**Then going NO CONTACT is the only way to truly get  the sociopath out of your life completely.

So why do sociopaths want to destroy lives, spread lies, cause conflict, chaos and drama? The answer is pretty simple — “jealousy”

The sociopath is jealous and envious of everyone they know. The believe that everyone has something better than them. So they do anything to sabatoge that persons life by any means.  Sociopaths experience a level of envy toward their targets that is lethal. Whatever the sociopath or  narcissist  sees in you that he/she knows they cannot be, want to be, or with something that he/she views that you have ‘won’ in some way. They feel a incredible amount of envy. Their envy can appear as rage in the smear campaign. Don't ever expect the sociopath to admit they are envious for someone. They have NO SPINE OR BACKBONE  TO DO THAT. 

So they have to sneak around behind your back and do covert things to try to destroy you. Sometime the envy is obvious and sometimes it is not obvious. 

Sociopaths tend to be envious of their ex spouses new girlfriend/boyfriend, husband or wife. And soon the innocent person who is with the sociopaths ex/ex-spouse decides to target the new love. Why?

Because sociopaths are low life scum. They prey on their ex, and anyone in the ex’s life, and even their own children. 

The Past Cannot Be Changed

We are powerless over the past.  

This is an absolute fact.  

We cannot change it. 

We cannot breathe yesterday’s air, but we can deprive ourselves of what we need today by trying to do the impossible, and that is, change the past.  

We somehow convince ourselves that by holding on to some mind held position, we will prevent the sociopath or situation from becoming real or happening again in the future.  

We are punishing ourselves, all the while believing that we are somehow affecting the perpetrator.  

It is as though we have become convinced that if we punish ourselves enough, the situation will change.  

This is not the answer, yet we often try to do this over and over again, only to find the same result…misery.