Narcissist and Sociopath Hate Responsibility

The sociopath can pretend and act like the rest of us with great success and believability because they lack a spiritual core. When there is no spiritual core to harm and confuse, the sociopath is a prime example of an empty existence unaffected by anything from the outside and especially from the inside.  

Sociopaths hate responsibility. So, the more they think and believe you are stressed out with responsibilities, the more victorious they feel. So let them believe you are not happy, that they have made life SO hard for you, that you are burdened by life. If they think they are making life hard, then they are content and will not step it up a notch or 10... Never let them see you happy, or tell them of your successes or future plans. If a sociopath thinks that you are succeeding in life - they will find a way to sabotage it...  

By giving them what they think they want, we appease them. By convincing them their choices burden us, we appease their need to control us. We did it inside the relationship; we can do it outside the relationship, too.

Predictable Sociopaths?

Sociopaths are actually predictable. They play the same game over and over. Victim after victim. They just add new players. But their strategy is the same every time.  

Sociopaths have a way of making you feel bad for them. They are always the victim. They play the victim role very well. Normal people do not go around telling everyone they meet how abused they were by their last partner... It's something they rather not talk about and are trying to heal from. A sociopath will tell anyone who will listen how abused they were. How they were abused mentally and physically. They do this because they are afraid the real victim may speak of the abuse they suffered at the hands of the sociopath. So by vilifying the real victim, they are hoping to discredit the victim first. And what better way than to play the victim. 

Shame the the real victim, so they are embarrassed to talk about what has happened to them. Then claim to be the one who was abused. Sociopaths add insult to injury in the most cruel and callous ways... 

The Past Cannot Be Changed

We are powerless over the past.  

This is an absolute fact.  

We cannot change it. 

We cannot breathe yesterday’s air, but we can deprive ourselves of what we need today by trying to do the impossible, and that is, change the past.  

We somehow convince ourselves that by holding on to some mind held position, we will prevent the sociopath or situation from becoming real or happening again in the future.  

We are punishing ourselves, all the while believing that we are somehow affecting the perpetrator.  

It is as though we have become convinced that if we punish ourselves enough, the situation will change.  

This is not the answer, yet we often try to do this over and over again, only to find the same result…misery.